wHy dO bOyS cHeAt...hErE aRe mY aSSuMpTiOnS

I envy the girls who have never experienced a boyfriend who has cheated on them...unfortunately, i have suffered through the experience...afterwards i thought to myself why do they cheat, and still i wonder WHY...i have come up with some ideas, reasons and explanations to why boys cheat..of course many variables have to be considered too...like:
HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN TOGETHER?
HOW OLD ARE YOU? HOW OLD IS HE?
IS THIS HIS/YOUR FIRST RELATIONSHIP?
HAS HE HAD MANY GIRLFRIENDS?
        THERE ARE MORE, BUT....
...i want to get down to the WHY'S....why do boys cheat...here are some of my assumptions...
 THEY CAN'T COMMIT TO A RELATIONSHIP
 ADDICTED TO SEX
 EXPERIMENTING
 NATURE/NURTURE
 ADVENTURE
JUST TO BE AN ASS
WANT THERE CAKE AND TO EAT IT TOO
ALL THERE FRIENDS ARE DOING IT
THEY HATE THERE GIRLFRIEND
REVENGE
CAN'T STAND TO HAVE SEX WITH THE GIRL THEY'RE WITH
EGO
MARRIED BUT UNHAPPY
GIRLFRIEND WONT GIVE IT UP
BRAGGING RIGHTS
FOR FUN
BECAUSE THEY CAN
IT'S EXPECTED OF THEM SO THEY JUST DO IT
THEY THINK "IT'S OKAY" OR "WHY NOT"
DISRESPECTFUL/DONT RESPECT WOMEN
LOW SELF-ESTEEM
PICKED ON AS A CHILD
THEY WANT MORE EXPERIENCE
GETTING OLD
FIGURE THEY CAN DO IT SINCE THEY'RE NOT MARRIED
THEY LIKE THE ADRENALINE RUSH
THEY DO IT JUST TO GET CAUGHT
OR BECAUSE THEY FIGURE THEY CANT GET CAUGHT
INSECURE
UNLOVED
THE GIRLFRIEND IS DRIVING HIM TO DO IT
THE GIRLFRIEND "MADE" HIM DO IT
DIVORCE
STUPIDITY
DID IT BECAUSE HE DOESNT KNOW BETTER
BEEN CHEATED ON
TRUST ISSUES
RELATIONSHIP IS FALLING APART
GREED
TOO YOUNG (IMMATURE)
COCKY
THINKS HE'S GODS GIFT TO WOMEN
INSECURE ABOUT HIS BODY, DOES IT TO MAKE HIMSELF FEEL BETTER/MORE OF A MAN
TOO HORNY/GIRLFRIEND CANT PROVIDE ENOUGH ASS TO SATISFY
WANTS TO HAVE TWO GIRLFRIENDS (WITHOUT EITHER KNOWING)
PLAYER
THINKS SHE WONT CARE
THINKS SHE DOESNT CARE ABOUT HIM
FEELS UNWANTED
TIRED OF HIS GIRLFRIENDS' NAGGING, BITCHING, WANTING, ASKING, PLEADING, CRYING AND SHOUTING.
WANTS MORE THAN ONE BABY'S MAMA
LIKES THE ATTENTION
LIKES TO ARGUE AND FIGHT AFTER HE'S BEEN CAUGHT
LIKES TO KISS/HUG/HAVE SEX/GIVE OR TAKE ORAL PLEASURE OR ANY OTHER SEXUAL FEELING
SIMPLY CANT GET ENOUGH
HAS NEVER BEEN FAITHFUL
CANT/DOESNT WANT TO BE FAITHFUL
POLIGAMY (MORE THAN ONE WIFE)
THINKS HE HAS TO
FOR MONEY
FOR POWER
BECAUSE WE HATE IT AND THEY KNOW IT
SO THEY CAN HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT AT THE BAR
FOR SOMETHING TO DO
SO THEY CAN SAY THEY DID IT
BECAUSE THEY WERE DRUNK
THEY WERE HIGH OR ON DRUGS
FOR THE MAKE UP SEX/JUST TO ARGUE AND MAKE UP

AND MOSTLY....................................IT'S BEACUSE THEY SUCK!!!!!
so there is my list.....i'm sure i could come up with more....if you have any other reasons, excuses or explanations to WHY boys cheat let me know...
SO LADIES, DUMP YOUR MAN IF HE HAS CHEATED ON YOU AND REMIND YOURSELF THAT WE ARE, WILL BE AND HAVE ALWAYS BEEN BETTER THAN THEM (ESPECIALLY THE CHEATING ONES)!!!
P.S.
I LOVE MEN!!!!! JUST NOT THE CHEATING ONES!!!

27 Confessions...

27 CONFESSIONS...One for each year I've been alive :)

1. I'm a hopeless romantic
2. I used to bite my nails
3. I'm a junk food junkie
4. I love my family more than anything
5. I sometimes lie to my own diary
6. I take the cheese off pizza before I eat it
7. I've been arrested for DWI (on St. Patty's Day at the age of 20)
8. I left college for love, and it didnt work out
9. I make excuses too often, and blame others when unecessary
10. I've never lived anywhere longer than 4 years
11. I want breast implants
12. I'm most scared of one of my parents dying
13. I'm sometimes a diva
14. I hate getting older
15. I live at home
16. I want a baby
17. I used to write my own notes to get out of class in High School, and get away with it
18. I have a lot of regrets
19. I love too easily
20. I'm too gullable
21. I want more than anything to be married to a rich, italian man, but I love country boys
22. I dont save money well
23. I despise liars, but I lie
24. I think I'm a perfect girlfriend (now anyways) and will be a great wife and mother
25. I can't handle my alcohol
26. I hate my tatoo
27. I've alwasy been a hard worker, but now I really just want to be handed everything.

What Do I Even Want?

I wake up lately and wonder...what is it that I want. I think it's extremely difficult to find your way in a town of no opportunites. But I was raised to be a strong, independent, go-getting, motivated woman. So I KNOW I need to be the one to find the opportunity and defeat this place of endless gossip, drama, poverty, and games. The demographic here is so small. I truly miss living in a place where I had my choice of guys, jobs, friends...just more people and places to take advantage of. I know I want a family eventually, but around here I can't even manage to find a decent boyfriend. Living in a "college town" and being 27 years old is not where I saw myself  being 5 years ago, and not a place where there are MEN that I want (I just cant bring myself to date another guy younger than me and go through the bullshit again). After I got my Associates and transfered here I was excited about attending SUNY Cortland. But after 2 years in, I left...for love. Then came back and worked two years, putting college aside. And now I want to go back, but I want to move, and I want to just get marrried, and just have a career without the additional college degree.and.....I want it all! Do you see...WHAT DO I EVEN WANT? It's hard....life. I don't know. I'm just frustrated with where I am in life. I know I have the potential for so much more, yet here I am in this waste of a town thats going nowhere. I have nothing truly keeping me here....so why do I stay? Out of comfort? That cant be...I am not happy here. I'm happy, but as I look to where my future may lead living here, that happiness turns into stress and panic. Am I gonna end up living here forever? When there are places I have lived and visited that are so much better?!! Just wondering. I know I will overcome this fork in the road, as I have overcome much bigger obstacles in my life. Time to really put things into perspective. And that means forgetting about my ex (a guy I stayed with despite his immaturity and inability to show love and affection...he said it, but Lord knows he didnt mean it). He's just a crappy boyfriend. With him aside and me focusing on myself, all of this wondering and stress will vanish. I'm putting MY LIFE AND FUTURE and HAPPINESS in harms way over a loser. And he's a complete down grade from my previous ex (love of my life). Time for change. And only I can do it. So watch out world. I'm over this crap and ready to move forward (whether that means actually moving or of course mentally moving on and pushing through). Thats it....

Live life like it's your last day. Love with all you have. Give until you can't. Hope with all of your heart. Believe. Always want to learn. Take your time. If you do not have a hero, be one. Fight. Pray. Be a leader, but follow your heart, and never say never. -Ashley McElroy

A Quote Written by My Father

“Reflecting upon my experiences as a teacher, there was the joy, hope, and love of children. It humbles me greatly knowing that I was allowed to nurture them by guiding them through their adversities, as I wiped their tears. I’ll never really know if I made a difference in their lives. But, I know this; they smiled, played, had fun, had hope and lived their dreams for an occasion. I saw the world through their eyes, for a sparkle in time.” – Rick McElroy
                    

I'm such a dreamer...

"Every dream you were not in, will be considered a nightmare"

Easter 2011

Well I had a beautiful Easter. I went to church and came home to ham cooking in the oven and all the fixings! Plus my mom made a special cake...soooo yummy!! I remember my dad always hiding our easter baskets and John and I would be so excited about the easter bunny coming. There is a picture of us (up a t the crack of dawn) in our underwear sitting by our easter baskets. I think I was 8. lol.  I also remember as a kid (and adult) we always went to my Aut Clistas house for easter eggs hunts. We thought it was so cool to find 50 cent pieces and dollars, and of course lots of candy in our easter eggs. My favorite part was always coloring the eggs. Being 27 and having no children yet I dont get to enjoy those simple things, but just being around my loved ones is special enough for me. I a post soon to come I am going to do a tribute to my Aunt who passed away suddenly last May. We really missed her this year. We would come over and despite the weather it would be too hot in the house..lol. SHe always madem y favorites (yams with marshmellows and her famous fruit salad). I truly miss her.

fLoRiDa.....

 FLORIDA WAS AMAZING.....

 

Well I went to Florida and it was AMAZING!!! I had never been and the weather, scenery, people...EVERYTHING, was just perfect. I went with an old friend, Kevin. Pretty cool guy and made this vacation one to remember. We stared off in Orlando and stayed an extra day there because they lost my luggage. But it was ok b/c we went to Wet n Wild, right there in Orlando. I did get my luggage (I FREAKING HATE WHEN THEY LOSE YOUR STUFF). The place we stayed at was a really laid back tiki type htoel called the Meditaranian Express. It had a tiki bar poolside!! Well from Orlando we drove to Cocoa beach. There I lost my voice singing karaoke at this really nice indoor-outdoor bar with a mini beach. The DJ/karaoke guy was hilarious! I met a lot of cool people and had a BLAST!! Before we even went out that night we walked the beach. I wrote in the sand and took some amazing pictures of the sun set (even though the sun only rises on the east coast, it was beautiful). From Cocoa Beach we headed to Vero beach to check out where Kevin lived. Really nice there. We went out to this (we ate out at amzing places our entire trip) out of this world upscale place on the water...the food was to die for. I met his parent, his doggie (who was at doggie day care for the week) and saw places like where Kevin went to High school, etc. From Vero Beach we drove to MIAMI!!!! That was my favorite. We stayed at the Holiday Inn Select which was beautiful. It had a poolside bar and breakfast was YUM!. I loved just laying out in the sun, soaking up all I could (poor kevin got burnt). The sand was white and the ocean a light light blue. It was beautiful. Again, I wrote in the sand and just took it all in. We went to an authentic, inexpensive Cuban rest. and got cuban sandwiches...the best!! Later that night we went to Miami Heat game. Before the game we walked around the bay and I had my first mojito...it was AWESOME!!! Our bartender Celeste was super cool. I bought a "I love Miami" t-shirt for the game. I had soooo much fun. My first professional game of any kind. I even made it on the "fan cam"....when we walked back to our car later a guy was like "hey i saw you on the fan cam"...made my day!!! Miami is actually very beautiful at night. During half-time I went out on the deck to have a drink and smoke and got to see the entire city all lit up...so pretty. the next day we woke up super early to catch the sunrise. BREATH-TAKING, to say the least. I even found 6 pieces of sea glass (which I used to collect while living on the beach in Norfolk, Va) to go along with all the shells I found. We ate breakfast, freshened up and hit the road for orlando (to stay for the next few days (i left sunday at 6am). Kevin let me drive, thankfully, b/c he was a bit of a..?...well not a NY driver, and I wanted to get there (its a 3 hour drive back to Orlando). We got back and stayed at the same hotel as we did at the beginning of our trip. We layed in the sun during the day and went to amazing places to eat at night. I went on the "sling shot" alone...kevin is scared of rides and rollercoasters, etc. The next day we went to SeaWorld! that was AMAZINGGGGGGG!!! I absolutely loved it. It was great. There dolpin show was so good we went twice. We of course went to shamu Stadium and saw Shamu and the whale shoe....so beautiful. I took a million pictures i swear. My last day we just hung out, pooside, had some drinks and did some souvenier shopping. Overall it was amazing and I now love FLORIDA!!!



A Special Video For Two (three) Special People I Love...

 Casey & Andrew...and soon to be Kyle!